Save the wedding night!
This one is gonna get personal yall! I wrote this in 2015, that seems like forever ago, but I believe it is so worth another share, so here goes….
Oh how I hope I’m not too late, for even just ONE!!! To all young women, moms of daughters or any unmarried person, I implore you…SAVE THE WEDDING NIGHT!!! This sounds strange, I know, but let me explain the glory and beauty of my wedding night. I found my husband when I was 15, he was 14, I scooped that cute redheaded Freshman up quickly!! A couple months after we had started dating, I received just what I had asked for for Christmas, a True Love Waits ring. That day I made a vow to God, to myself and my future husband, to save myself for my marriage, to wait, to remain abstinent, until my wedding night! Not knowing then that I was making this vow to that cute red headed boy, I told him of my commitment, and he understood. Of course, it was a challenge, especially the more God confirmed he was the man I would marry! Difficult, but trust me, very possible!! I dated this boy for 6 years before he asked me to marry him and that day, I traded my True Love Waits ring for an engagement ring. Now the real challenge arrived, a year, of KNOWING I would marry him and staying true to my promise! Whew!! With great sacrifice, comes great reward…the WEDDING NIGHT!!
One of our engagement pictures.
We were married on a gorgeous Fall day, it was perfect! In the back of my mind all day was the nerves of the wedding night, but I found so much comfort in the fact that he was feeling the same way. An hour or so before the ceremony my sister delivered my gift to my soon-to-be husband. In the box that he had presented my engagement ring, I presented to him, my True Love Waits ring. With that was a note that said, “Christmas 2001, just after we started dating, my parents gave me a True Love Waits ring. That day I made a vow to myself and my husband to save myself for him. Not knowing yet that that man would be you, I wore that ring for 6 years. It is beaten, it is battered, and it is ugly, but it is the symbol of something I hold so dear. I wore that ring 24/7 until the day you replaced it with my engagement ring. Although it’s just a cheap little ring, it is my gift to you. Not the ring, but what it stands for, on this day, I give you, me. I have waited my whole life for you and for this day and I know God will bless our marriage for what we have waited for. Thank you for always being understanding and for always waiting for me. I love you so very much and I’m so excited for our life together.” I followed that with a prayer for our marriage. Shortly after that I met that handsome man at the end of an aisle, and we made vows to one another.
October 18, 2008
After the night was over and on our way to our first home, our sweet little honeymoon house, we were both shyly quiet (I trait I do not normally posess). The sweet nerves, the loving understanding and excitement were only a few of the feelings I recall. We were husband and wife…we could FINALLY do this!!! The details will stop here but what I will tell you is that that night, our wedding night, will always be one of my most treasured moments in life! GIRLS…. you want that moment! You want that moment with your husband and no one else!
2018 (We are pretty sure I was pregnant with baby#3 here, but we didn’t know that at the time)
With waiting for marriage comes all the questions, “What if they’re bad in bed?” or “What if they aren’t as good as so and so?” and other such atrocities!! Here is that answer, not having sexual relations with any other person, what we have is incredible!! Whether it’s exceptional or mediocre by the world’s standards, we’ll never know, because to us and only between us, it’s indescribable!! We don’t have a comparison and what beauty there is in that! We don’t overthink about each others’ pasts or argue about exes, etc. I want all women to live the fairytale marriage that I live daily and I strongly believe that saving ourselves for our marriage is a big factor in why our relationship is so phenomenal! So, my darling girls, make the vow NOW and SAVE THE WEDDING NIGHT!!!!!!!
Our beautiful babies!!
As always, I am here, I am here to talk through, counsel, give a big squeeze or wipe big tears!! You may wonder, “but Stacey, what if it’s too late?” It is never too late darling girl, there is nothing you can do that God’s grace and mercy doesn’t cover!
